Couples Therapy
I work with couples that have reached the end of their rope, and are motivated to make things better in their relationship.
Maybe the two of you have drifted apart, and you feel lonely and disconnected. It seems like your partner doesn’t know who you are any more, and you wonder how this happened because this person used to be your best friend.
Maybe you feel like you are walking on eggshells because anything you say gets misunderstood, and sets your partner off leading yet to another argument.
Or maybe he one thing that you had never imagined happening to you just did. Your partner cheated on you.
You feel devastated, and what you once knew as “your life” suddenly stops being what it was.
You are in shock, and you can’t sleep or eat anything.
How can you even begin to think about forgiveness? And if you can’t forgive them, then what?
Issues that I can help you with in couples counseling are:
- feeling distant and disconnected
- having communication difficulties
- experiencing tension and conflict
- struggling with infidelity or affairs
- dealing with feelings of being the one who cheated
- intimacy after infidelity
- creating deeper intimacy and rekindling passion
- premarital counseling
- intimacy after having a baby
- differences in parenting styles
- blended family dynamics
- alternative relationships
- discernment counseling- deciding whether to stay or leave
Relationships are so hard, aren't they?
The struggle to accommodate your partner’s needs as well as maintain your own sense of self eventually promotes growth but during this process, you may start to wonder if "the grass is greener on the other side", and you may even assume that there is a better partner for them out there.
This normal, universal process of personal and relational growth is often misunderstood as incompatibility, and can lead to an affair or unnecessary separation and divorce.
But if you don't learn the skills that will allow you to have better communication and emotional regulation in this relationship, the same patterns will repeat in a different relationship with a different partner.
Relationships are hard because of the growing that's still left for you to do, that if you don't do in this relationship, you will have to do in another.