You are not satisfied with what’s happening (or not happening) in your bedroom. You would like more sexual intimacy in your relationship with your partner but every time you ask for it, it blows up in your face. You are struggling with performance anxiety or pain and you’ve been avoiding having sex all together. Is low libido or a sexual dysfunction keeping you from enjoying your sex life? Then, let’s get to work! I help motivated individuals and couples that have the desire to reclaim their sexuality, reignite the passion in their relationship, relax and be playful with each other again.
Our sexuality is at the core of our being. It’s a way we express ourselves, find connection, get release and create meaning. Oftentimes though, due to multiple reasons we struggle to find that balance and access all our potential. Here are some of the most common reasons:
- Because it’s normal! There is always a higher desire partner and a lower desire partner (e.g. when you want to have sex 4 times a week and your partner wants it every day…guess what? You are the low desire partner). The same thing happens with desire for emotional intimacy. Usually one partner is low at the one and the other partner low at the other…
- Tolerating emotional intimacy is hard and can result to disconnection and lack of sexual desire or sexual dysfunction.
- Having a history of sexual trauma can have a negative impact on the way we experience and express our sexuality.
- Pornography and the media have created unrealistic expectations of what is considered “normal” or attractive and that leads to confusion and disappointment when you cannot have that in real life.
- Chronic illness and health issues as well as medications can affect the way our body functions sexually.
If you want to find new ways to connect sexually with your partner that will allow you to feel less anxious about performing it might be necessary to get help from a knowledgeable provider that has resources and if need be can make the appropriate referrals.
Issues that I can help you with in sex therapy:
- Low sexual desire
- Desire discrepancy between partners
- Sexual pain
- Sex after childbirth
- Difficulty having an orgasm
- Performance anxiety
- Delayed ejaculation
- Premature ejaculation
- Erectile dysfunction
- Sexual difficulties because of a medical condition/medication
- Disability and changes in sex life
In our work together, I will use psychoeducation to teach you about facts from the latest research in the field of sexual health and we will debunker sexual myths and unhelpful expectations that get in the way of your optimal sexual functioning. Sessions are strictly instructive and verbal. I might suggest exercises for you to do by yourself or with your partner, but I will never make to do so as part of therapy.
Call or email me today and start getting relief from all that anxiety and frustration that has been plaquing your sex life.
Consensual Non Monogamy-Alternative Relationships
More and more people are becoming curious and want to explore other forms of romantic or sexual expression in non-traditional relationships. Open relationships necessitate good understanding around safety, boundaries, rules and expectations to avoid confusion and frustration.
Learning to discuss one’s intimacy and sexual needs, fears and desires is a skill. Negotiating consensual non-monogamy (e.g. polyamory, threesomes etc.) and wanting to include other forms of sexual expression in one’s sexual repertoire (e.g. BDSM, Kink, Fetish play, etc.) can enhance intimacy and deepen communication and respect between partners if done properly. Open communication and continuous processing is a key.
I am here to help you openly discuss and explore your sexual needs and desires in a way that will facilitate intimacy and connection between you and your partners and will help protect your primary relationship, if you are in one.
Contact me for your free 20-minute consultation today and find out how I can help!