Are you not satisfied with what’s happening (or not happening) in your bedroom? Would you like more sexual intimacy in your relationship? Are you struggling with performance anxiety or pain and you’ve been avoiding having sex all together? Is a sexual dysfunction keeping you from enjoying your sex life? Then, let’s get to work! I help motivated individuals and couples that have the desire to reclaim their sexuality, reignite the passion in their relationship, relax and be playful with each other.
Our sexuality is at the core of our being. It’s a way we express ourselves, find connection, get release and create meaning. Oftentimes partners struggle to find that balance and access all their potential. Past sexual trauma can have a negative impact on the way people experience and express their sexuality. Disconnection and difficulty tolerating emotional intimacy can lead to a lack of sexual desire or sexual dysfunction. Chronic illness and health issues as well as medications can affect the way our body functions sexually and it might be necessary to get help from a knowledgeable provider that has resources and can make appropriate referrals.
Issues that can be addressed in sex therapy:
- Low sexual desire
- Desire discrepancy between partners
- Sexual pain
- Sex after childbirth
- Difficulty having an orgasm
- Performance anxiety
- Delayed ejaculation
- Premature ejaculation
- Erectile dysfunction
- Sexual difficulties as a result of a medical condition/medications
- Disability and changes in sex life
In sex therapy we will utilize psychoeducation to talk about the sexual response cycle and the different kinds of sexual desire. Sessions are strictly instructive and verbal. You will explore your turn ons and turn offs and I will suggest exercises and will encourage you to consider participating in certain intimate activities or exercises by yourself or with you partner, but I will never make to do so as part of therapy.
Consensual Non Monogamy-Alternative Relationships
More and more people are becoming curious and want to explore other forms of romantic or sexual expression in non-traditional relationships. Some forms of alternative relationships evolve between couples- both gay and straight (e.g swinging, threesomes, polyamory) and other forms happen between an individual and other individuals or couples. Open relationships necessitate good understanding around safety, boundaries, rules and expectations in order to avoid confusion and frustration.
Learning to negotiate one’s intimacy and sexual needs, fears and desires is a skill. Discussing consensual non-monogamy and wanting to include other forms of sexual expression in one’s sexual repertoire (e.g BDSM, Kink, Fetish play, etc) as well as other partners can enhance intimacy and deepen communication and respect between partners if done properly. Open communication and processing is a key. I am here to help you openly discuss and explore your sexual needs and desires in a way that will facilitate intimacy and connection between you and your partners and will help protect your primary relationship, if you are in one.