“People marry each other for profoundly important reasons, and no one should divorce until they deal with those things that caused them to marry and then want to divorce each other.”
– Carl Whitaker
Sometimes partners come to therapy because they don’t know what to do with their relationship. Do they want to make it work or do they want to separate? They have tried for so long and they may feel discouraged, hopeless and disappointed. Going to therapy to explore what other ways there are to deal with what seems unsolvable can be crucial in making the final decision. Starting a new life with someone else that could make them happier certainly sounds appealing and a relief after what seems pointless but there are so many things to consider. The kids. The house. The car. The friends. The neighbors. The in-laws. Discernment counseling can help you feel more secure in your decision to stay or separate after having thought, discussed, and agreed on how life could look like if having to split or share all that.