“Loving someone is a very active process. Love is not a feeling you have; it’s supposed to accrue to the benefit of the loved one.”
– Dr. David Schnarch
The struggle to accommodate another person’s needs as well as maintain one’s sense of self eventually promotes growth. During this process though partners may start to feel controlled or unappreciated. As a result they start to disconnect, experience boredom and a general lack of sexual desire. This normal process is often misunderstood and If not addressed properly with the help of a professional who is informed about how to help it can lead to unnecessary separation and divorce.