The one thing that you had never imagined happening to you just did. Your partner cheated on you.
You feel betrayed and devastated and what you once knew as “your life” suddenly stops being your life.
You are in shock and you can’t sleep or eat anything. You keep thinking about your partner being intimate with that other person and you feel like you’re going crazy. You want it to all go away but it. just. won’t. stop!
The anger for what your partner did and the pain their betrayal is causing you feels heartbreaking. How can you even begin to think about forgiveness? And if you can’t forgive them, then what?
Maybe infidelity does not pertain to you.
Maybe the two of you have drifted apart and you feel lonely and disconnected. Your partner doesn’t know who you are any more and they don’t look like they care to get to know you any better either.
Maybe you feel like you are walking on eggshells and like anything you say might be misunderstood and set your partner off leading yet to another argument!
I work with couples that have reached the end of their rope and are motivated to make things better in their relationship.
I also offer online counseling for all clients that want to have the benefits of therapy without the commute.
Issues that I can help you with in couples counseling are:
- feeling distant and disconnected
- having communication difficulties
- experiencing tension and conflict
- getting over a betrayal of trust
- dealing with feelings of being the one who cheated
- struggling with infidelity or affairs
- intimacy after infidelity
- creating deeper intimacy and rekindling passion
- premarital counseling
- intimacy after having a baby
- differences in parenting styles
- blended family dynamics
- alternative relationships– how to have a healthy open relationship
- discernment counseling– deciding whether to stay or leave
HERE IS A BRIEF EXPLANATION WHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD AND WHY ALL OF US KNOW HOW IT FEELS:
The struggle to accommodate another person’s needs as well as maintain one’s sense of self eventually promotes growth.
During this process though partners may start to feel controlled or unappreciated.
As a result, they start to disconnect, experience boredom and a general lack of sexual desire.
This normal process is often misunderstood and can lead to an affair or unnecessary separation and divorce. People start to think that maybe the grass is greener on the other side and that there is a better partner for them out there.
Unfortunately, the same patterns (or even in reverse) will repeat in a different relationship with a different partner because it’s normal!
“People marry each other for profoundly important reasons, and no one should divorce until they deal with those things that caused them to marry and then want to divorce each other.” – Carl Whitaker