You are walking on eggshells and feel like anything you say might be misunderstood and might set your partner off. The two of you have drifted apart and you feel lonely and disconnected. Or maybe you feel hurt and betrayed because your partner has been unfaithful. I work with couples that have reached the end of their rope and are motivated to make things better in their relationship and take control over their life.
The struggle to accommodate another person’s needs as well as maintain one’s sense of self eventually promotes growth. During this process though partners may start to feel controlled or unappreciated. As a result, they start to disconnect, experience boredom and a general lack of sexual desire. This normal process is often misunderstood and if not addressed properly with the help of a professional who is informed about how to help it can lead to an affair or unnecessary separation and divorce.
Issues that I can help you explore and address in couples counseling are:
- feeling distant and disconnected
- having communication difficulties
- experiencing tension and conflict
- getting over a betrayal of trust
- struggling with infidelity or affairs
- Intimacy after infidelity
- creating deeper intimacy
- rekindling passion
- premarital counseling
- Intimacy after having a baby
- differences in parenting styles
- blended family dynamics
- alternative relationships- how to have a healthy open relationship
- discernment counseling- deciding whether to stay or leave
Call me today and start connecting with your partner in a way that you haven’t ever before.
Discernment Counseling
“People marry each other for profoundly important reasons, and no one should divorce until they deal with those things that caused them to marry and then want to divorce each other.” – Carl Whitaker
You might feel that you have tried for too long to make things better with your spouse and you may be discouraged, hopeless and disappointed. One of you might be considering separation or divorce and the other could be devastated. Going to therapy to explore what ways there are to deal with what seems unsolvable and what options the future holds can be crucial in making the final decision.
Sometimes partners come to therapy because they don’t know what they want to do with their marriage. Do they want to try and make it work or do they want to separate? There are so many things to consider. Custody of the kids (and the pets), the house, the mutual friends, the favorite neighbors, the relationship with the in-laws, alimony and child support. The list goes on. Discernment counseling can help you feel more secure in your decision to stay or separate after having thought, discussed, and agreed on how life could look like if you had to split or share all that.
Divorce does not have to be a failure. Choosing to end heartache and fighting and wanting to start a new life can be a good choice but it better not be premature. You owe it to yourself, your spouse and your children, if you have any. Starting a new life with someone else that you could be happier with certainly sounds appealing and a relief after what seemed pointless but if you as a partner have not learned anything about what actions, choices, and beliefs led you to your divorce then you won’t know how to prevent that from happening again in the future.
Contact me for your 20-minute free consultation and start figuring out how you want the rest of your life to look like.