If you are the low sexual desire partner in your relationship, you feel like you are under constant pressure.
You feel pressure from your partner to have more sex, and you put pressure on yourself to want more sex.
In the end, you feel crappy whether you have sex or not!
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When you decide to say “no” you feel guilty and responsible for your partner’s unhappiness.
When you decide to say “yes” it’s because you don’t want your partner to be upset and miserable. You feel obligated to have sex and
you fear that if you don’t your partner might cheat or leave.
You push yourself to have sex and you experience some temporary relief because you bought yourself some time, but you end up feeling used or resentful.
You hope your lack of sexual desire is due to some sort of hormonal imbalance, but you suspect that’s not the case. You worry about the consequences on your relationship but you have no idea where to start.
Nothing seems to break this awful cycle of negative mental chatter and low desire for sexual intimacy. Things get better for a while and then, the momentum is gone.
What if you knew there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and that what is happening to you is normal AND inevitable in a long term committed relationship?
What if you knew that even though you cannot stop or control the low desire/high desire dynamic in your relationship, you have the power to change how you feel about it and how you handle it?
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You can generate sexual desire for yourself. Whether you decide to share it with your partner or not, it feels amazing.
You can say “no” from a place of self-love and respect for your partner that leaves the two of you feeling closer instead of disconnected.
The relationship you have with your self and your body can be such that you feel desirable and worthy no matter what.
Having sex can feel like receiving instead of sacrificing.
Imagine being her. Would you like that? It’s possible.
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I coach women how to manage their mental baggage around sex so they can relax in their body, let their desire develop and create sexual experiences that bring them confidence, pleasure and joy.
Low libido in women and sexual desire discrepancy (one partner wanting sex more than the other) are the most common complaints I have encountered in my work as a sex therapist.
So many issues get in the way:
Negative Body Image
Resentments and power struggles
Difficulty experiencing an orgasm
Partner’s performance anxiety or sexual dysfunction
Secrets and guilt
Trust issues
Mediocre sex
Pain, some other health concern, and medications
Loss of attraction
Fertility concerns
Sexual trauma
What most of these reasons have in common are negative beliefs to support them.
Let me coach you and give you accurate information so you can think straight!
Get coached on your mindset around sex by someone with the knowledge and background to give you results.
- Let me show you why what is happening to you is completely normal and why you have the ability to change it.
- Let me help you understand and manage the thoughts that kill your libido and lead to avoidance of any kind of intimacy with your partner.
- Let me offer you accurate information around your female body and how sexual desire works so that you feel empowered and in the driver’s seat of your desire, whether you choose to take your “car” for a ride or not.
- Let me teach you how to have the self–confidence to communicate what you want to your partner with love.
Coach with me! Contact me today for more information on how to get started!